This week, rather than speculate on the magnitude and direction of the stock market’s next inscrutable lurch, let’s ponder a troubling opinion piece on marriage that appeared in the Asbury Park Press. The author, one Anthony D’Ambrosio, is a 29-year-old millennial whose despairing ruminations bore the headline Five Reasons We Can’t Handle Marriage Anymore. He would know. D’Ambrosio, who writes a regular column on relationships for the newspaper, was a married man himself until recently — to a woman he met in 2004 and whom he wed in 2012. So much for the supposed benefits of a long courtship. Here’s D’Ambrosio’s short list of reasons why millennials are unable forge lasting unions:
• Sex becomes almost non-existent.
• Finances cripple us.
• We’re more connected than ever – but also disconnected.
• Our desire for attention outweighs our desire to be loved.
• Social media just invited a few thousand people into bed with you.
Clearly, this is a guy who still has a lot of soul-searching to do — and maturing. One could also argue that he has missed an important clue by failing to consider why marriages used to work so much better. Men and woman shared a common sense of purpose and an unlimited vista of opportunities when the U.S. emerged from the Second World War. Today, it is just the opposite: Career options for young people are limited, if not to say bleak; and, men and women were not at war back then, nor were they burdened by a sexual revolution that has cast gender roles perhaps irretrievably into doubt.
And there are a hundred other good reasons. What say you, readers?